My “Mom List”… Part I

I’m working on a document to send to friends (who’ve asked me a variety of questions) with all kinds of information on what I’ve learned in the short time I’ve been a mom. Mostly, this stuff includes pregnancy support, nursing hacks and supplements, gear for babies and toddlers, learning kits and more.

The first item on my list is no surprise to anyone who knows me… Amazon Prime. A friend said to me, while I was pregnant with my first, that she would put things in her cart when she had time to think about them, and then when she actaully needed them, she would go click “ship”! 🙂 This was a great idea, and I still use this strategy to this day.

So, as a teaser before sharing the list I mentioned above… go get yourself Amazon Prime, folks! You won’t regret it… or you might. Lol.

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Feeding Three Under Two!

It’s been some time since my last update… because life has been cruising along. In 2016, we added twins to our family! Since then, I’ve been nursing (and pumping for) two adorable little ones.

As part of this journey, I get questions frequently from friends and colleagues like “How do you do it?!” Well… here’s a list of my go-to products (affiliate links may be included). These items may keep me sane, may help my milk supply, may keep my kids entertained while I feed another one, or any other number of things to support feeding three kiddos under age two!

I found these cookies some time ago. Full disclosure, these will not help you “lose the baby weight while breastfeeding” if that’s your plan; however, they do seem to help me keep my supply at a twin-tolerant level. Chocolate-chip Oatmeal cookies: http://amzn.to/2ipFhaW

Vitamins! All moms need a little boost occasionally, and I consider having this many munchkins around. This is a powdered product you can dissolve in water or juice. It smells a bit like powdered citrus drink mix, but it’s more bitter when you drink it down. I generally try to get it mostly down in one try or mask the bitterness with a tropical flavored juice like pineapple. 🙂 Milk-multi Postnatal Vitamin: http://amzn.to/2itsBee

By the same company as the vitamin powder, this stuff tastes quite good, in my opinion, and it supports twin-tolerant milk levels from what I’ve experienced. You also mix this with water or juice. I can tolerate this one with water. UpSpring Milk Flow Fenugreek & Blessed Thistle powdered drink mix: http://amzn.to/2jL4lp0

Mother’s Milk Tea is mentioned in nearly every forum I’ve ever been a part of, and I’ve definitely used it. That said, I think there are other products that seem to help me a little more, but I like having a box of this tucked into my desk at work and another next to my single-cup brew machine at home. Mother’s Milk Tea: http://amzn.to/2iym3ya

This is one I wish I would’ve known about with my first child. When you’re nursing a baby on one side, the other side lets down… if this happens and you don’t have a way to collect the milk, you lose out in many ways. This device can be suctioned to the opposite side you nurse on to collect an ounce or two. Many women use this–what may seem like a small amount–to start their “going back to work stockpile” of frozen breast milk. With twins, I still use this on occasion, and it’s a great (inexpensive) item to throw in a gift set for a new mom (provided you KNOW she plans to breastfeed). Zerlar brand Hakaa cup: http://amzn.to/2jkoXYK

As I recall other tools I use, I’ll come back and update this resource list. I’d love to hear what works for you in the comments below!

For all my fellow twin moms, moms of three under two, working moms, frantic, nit-picky, loving, laughing, enjoying life moms… happy twinning, happy momming, and keep rocking it!

Holiday treats for neighbors, teachers

Inspired by my “Mason Jar” gift win from the open house, I found a recipe for a dry apple cider mix recipe and a stove-top spiced pecan recipe. 

I started a little early on this project, so I ordered 4-ounce jars and plastic bags to package everything. 

I assembled the jars and printed a label; I toasted the pecans with the sugar and spices, then let them cool on a mat. I spooned the pecans into small bags after I added a sticker with the ingredients printed on them. Then, in a slightly larger bag, I nestled the apple-cider jar in the bottom and placed the tied bag of pecans on top. Then, I sealed the outer bag. 

I decided this was a great neighbor gift, but for the teachers, I wanted to jazz it up a tiny bit more. I found an Etsy page with hand-sewn pocket, rice hand warmers for $1! I ordered two for each teacher. I also stumbled on ceramic travel mugs with a single serving of hot chocolate and marshmallows included. These extra items fit my “comfort” and “warmth” theme, so I packaged all of it together in gift bags.

Here’s hoping these go over well… still a few days before I’ll be able to deliver them.

As always, these didn’t take forever to assemble, but I feel showing a little time in my gift idea helps show the teachers how much they are appreciated for hanging out with my little one all day!

Happy Holidays!

I finally remembered to snap a pic… 🙂  

 

“Back to school” Teacher gifts

You’ve probably seen elaborate teacher gifts all over the web or in your classroom? 

Well, I saw a note when I picked up my little one that the child center was having their “back to school” open house and figured I needed to not show up empty handed! However, I seriously had a grand sum of five minutes to put something together while Dad distracted the baby, and I had zero time to shop.

Fortunately, I try to stay stocked up on small things that can build a variety of spectacular-looking or sounding things in a snap. 

So… What did I make?

5-minute hand scrub: Coconut oil, raw sugar and lavender oil… That’s it. I used roughly equal parts sugar and coconut oil until I liked the consistency. I evenly portioned the scrub into 4-ounce canning jars, printed a quick label, tied it on… and voila. 

As it turns out, one of my son’s guest teachers is British and loved the lavender. Who knew? 🙂 

My thoughts… These ladies wash their hands a million times a day and might appreciate a luxurious and moisturizing scrub to pamper themselves with. Bonus: I had enough to keep some on my own sink counter!

First day at daycare

I’m so nervous and apprehensive about tomorrow that I truly can’t sleep. It will be our little one’s first day at daycare despite turning eight months old last week. 

We were lucky enough to have a friend look after him for the past five to six months after my extended maternity leave, but she’s going back to teaching this fall since her little one will be a year old. 

Our daycare has all kinds of rules that I keep rolling around in my head. I keep wondering if I packed the right things, why did I have to sign so many forms, and will he cry when we leave him in his new classroom? 

Our daycare somehow convinced us that we had to sign for photos to be taken of our child and we had to sign for him to go on field trips despite our own reservations. They reasoned the photos were mandatory for certain group events, and they added that we must sign for field trips so they’re allowed to take our child out of the building in case of emergency or fire. 

I think tomorrow I’m calling the Bull Shit flag on these two items. No one had a NEED to photograph my child (this from the woman who cut off a family member soon after the baby was born because she re-posted an image to her personal page online and to the public at large). And, if there’s an emergency, I fail to see how they’ll know which kid’s parents signed the form and which ones didn’t? As for field trips, no. He’s eight months old, not eight years old.

What sort of first-day things did you think about? The outfit? What areas of your own parenting you might be judged on? If your baby would pick up social cues easily? Did you pack enough diapers and changes of clothes? 

Does this stuff work?

Our little one is still several months from being too mobile or starting down the “toddler” path, but I see all kinds of ideas, gadgets and thing-a-mabons out there that I wonder if they work. That’s to say, do these things help parents, simplify life at all, or in any way build a more entertaining life for parents and kids?

Here are a few (contains affiliate links); tell me what you think:

*Dinner Winner plate: http://amzn.to/1JfIwnU

*Beaba Babycook Pro for making your own baby food: http://amzn.to/1Ga49IU

Traveling with a newborn

For months, I dodged family invites to events that would have us travel during baby boy’s first year. In fact, we took what we thought would be our last trip just three weeks before our preemie arrived. 

Fast forward to nine weeks post partum when my dearest mentor passed away, and we were hustling to figure out the best plan to cross the country and attend the funeral.

Having not returned to work at that point, we didn’t have a hard and fast schedule to adhere to. This led us to choosing a red eye flight out and a late evening return the same day. 

The weather was projected to be freezing rain, and we certainly didn’t want baby boy to be exposed to that, so we started brainstorming ideas and thinking of other friends who lived in the area. 

On a whim, I sent a note to a fellow mom who lived near the funeral site and asked if she would mind helping us out by watching our little one while we attended the funeral. We got way more help than we could’ve imagined! She said “No problem!” and offered us a place to nap and hot meals while in town for only a few hours. This is one of those instances where reaching out to our network of friends was crucial, and they came through in a big way.

That said, we’d heard all the stories of how people handled fellow passengers on airplanes and wondered what it would be like to experience the other side of the “sighs” and glares. I made all arrangements possible to be ready to nurse our little one since I’d read (and heard from friends) that was the way to help him regulate his body and the pressure changes. 

He slept. 

Without any major struggle or coaxing, no excessive nursing or coddling, our little one slept going up and coming down. He only made a few peeps on the flight home (he needed a serious diaper and wardrobe change!), and that was it.

We packed our funeral attire in one carry-on bag, I had what I’d dubbed my “mommy bag,” and we had the diaper bag and a pump bag. That was it. We used a two-piece stroller/car-seat travel system and put the diaper bag and pump bag under the car seat, carried the diaper bag and rolled the carry-on bag. We did not look like the Griswalds, and we checked the carry-on bag for our return flight. 

Somehow, in that little of space, we had five changes of clothes, 20 diapers and more milk and milk storage than we needed. 

While this, by no means, will look like every trip someone (or even us) might take with a newborn, I share it as an example of just taking life in small chunks, if you will. We gathered the basics and added a few comfort items once we had a grasp on space. 

Our second trip came in the form of a business trip that hubby took vacation time to join so I could still nurse effectively for the three days away from home. 

The short version of the trip… Germs! Lack of sleep! Inability to pump in due time! Strange fellow passengers on the flight! You probably get the idea.

This travel occurred when our little one was roughly 16 weeks old. He was about five days shy of his four-month vaccines by the time we returned home. This wouldn’t normally bother me except for his early arrival and the odd passenger sitting next to us who’d just returned from Trimidad and insisted on holding our baby. -_- 

Fortunately, we had a repeat performance by baby… He seemed to be a born traveler. 

This time, we packed the play crib for him to sleep in after reading about a mom who’s child died the week prior while sleeping in a hotel bed as they were traveling. 😦 

Breastfeeding, pumping & work

The thing that stressed me out the most about going back to work was whether or not I would still be able to breastfeed my little one.

I pumped from day one so I could provide milk for his NICU stay, and I waited for the “6-week zone” where baby and I would finally get into sync with less pain for me and plenty of supply for him. This didn’t happen until the 10-week point just as I was going back to work, but I give more credit to better pumping supplies. I had the basic “top of the line” Medela pump (affiliate link:  http://amzn.to/1CD3Gb9) recommended by friends, and it did the job, but I had sore, cracked nipples and didn’t care for breastfeeding or pumping in that condition. It was also hard trying to balance feedings and pumping, if I’m being honest.

Around 9 weeks, I read about Freemies, an add-on for any brand pump that eliminates the need for the horn and bottle set up. These things (affiliate link: http://amzn.to/1EGiyb7) worked great for me. I could close my office door and pump while still taking conference calls, answering phones and email. I also recall one chaotic moment when traveling where I had a Freemie hooked to one breast, a baby on the other and a friend’a two-year old little one snuggled under my arm because she needed the same attention as the baby at the moment. I am not generally keen on whipping out my breasts to feed the baby, but this all occurred as the four adults caught up after many years apart.

Ultimately, breastfeeding and pumping after going back to work has been the most challenging of all new mom learning curves for me. There are several ways to tackle this issue, and many resources available to help. The one I didn’t tap into was a lactation consultant. I don’t know if it was stubbornness or pride or what, but if I had it to do over again, I think I’d have the consultant in my labor and delivery room! Lol.

Update: Some women I’ve talked to had difficulties convincing their employers they needed an appropriate space to pump when they returned from having their babies. Here’s the legal basis for employers providing a private, sanitary location for breastfeeding women to pump and store milk: http://www.usbreastfeeding.org/Employment/WorkplaceSupport/WorkplaceSupportinFederalLaw/tabid/175/Default.aspx.

The transition

I prolonged going back to work as long as I could with my 6-week convalescence and another almost month of saved up vacation time. But the best decision of all… we saved my husband’s paternity leave–roughly two weeks offered by his job–until after my time was up. 

This allowed me to continue breastfeeding in the middle of the day when they would visit me at work. Sure, I pumped when I could, but getting to nurse midday was mentally and physically beneficial for Mom and Baby. 

Meal planning: Where to start

Meal planning is probably the most important, most frustrating and maybe most controversial part of divvying up the household duties. It is also time consuming, frustrating, but ultimately gratifying (when it works).

For more than a year now, we’ve relied on fresh produce to determine our menu, for the most part. I don’t say this to be coy or cute, but we began receiving a weekly co-op basket of pre-selected fruits and vegetables delivered to a local drop-off station. We use http://www.bountifulbaskets.org for our weekly contribution. 

This wound up being one of the best decisions we made in terms of simplifying meal planning. It may sound flipped to wait until you have groceries to decide what’s on the menu, but it works well for us. Once we collect our baskets Saturday mornings, we inventory our take and decide what pantry, freezer or refrigerator items will complement the produce. There are often a few odds and ends we’ve never encountered, and these usually get left for a week or we visit Chef Google for a recipe inspiration. Let me be frank, I don’t like using recipes verbatim. I tend to view recipes as an idea starter… this is probably why I’m not the best baker; I consider cooking and art and baking a science, and I prefer to color outside the lines, rather than use test tubes and beakers, if you catch my drift.

One week, we received beets, an item we rarely eat and had, up until that time, not prepared for a meal at home. So, they went two weeks before we touched them. The following week, we received rainbow chard; same story here… never used the stuff in a dish before. However, after staring at the bulky items taking up valuable fridge space, Chef Google came through with this recipe inspiration: http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/Swiss-Chard-with-Beets-Goat-Cheese-and-Raisins-233410. We picked up crumbled goat cheese and used dried cranberries instead of raisins (since there were plenty left over from holiday baking) and used a canned tomato and pepper blend in addition to some fresh jalapeños also taking up bin space. The dish was bright red and scary looking! But, it was one of the best tasting dishes we’d put together in a while. It was also quick and easy, and it helped us clear items from both the pantry and fridge.

Another area that helps us with meal planning–the on-sale or good deal meat selections. We purchase ground beef or chicken breasts on sale and then cook the entire package within a day or two of bringing it home, regardless of whether or nt we know what we will use it for. For instance, we found ground beef on sale for about half the normal per pins price, brought it home and sautéed it with garlic, diced onion (from the basket), salt and pepper. Then, we froze the pre-cooked blend in one-pound bags for later use. We ended up making last-minute quesadillas out of one package, and they were delicious without a ton of fuss. Additionally, we found a package of chicken breast on sale (roughly half the normal price), brought it home and pan seared the entire package. Then, we cubed the meat and put it in the fridge. The rest of the week’s menu ended up being chicken fried rice, chicken tortilla soup and BBQ chicken sandwiches–all quick and easy with the help of the prepared meat. I should also note that I cook rice once in a while in large batches as well. It goes in the rice cooker, then I freeze it into usable portions. This is what we used for the fried rice meal. Each of these dishes capitalized on whatever fruits and vegetables and other items we had on hand.

Our meal planning doesn’t involve any huge prep in terms of shopping lists or the like, but it still seems to work for our busy lifestyle. We aren’t forced to grab something from the drive-thru (although we still sometimes do), so we save money, time, effort and calories when we can with this method (if you can call it that).